Knowing how to pray just before or during a panic attack comes from understanding the nature of anxiety symptoms and panic attacks.  For Christians, self help for panic attacks means stepping through a process by faith.  “Self help” does not mean, “I conquer panic in my own strength.”  Rather, “self help” means that there are attitudes you must adopt and actions you must perform if you are going to tame the wild beast of panic.

What are Panic Attacks?  The Clinical Definition

So, self help for panic attacks by faith begins with defining what we are talking about.  Let’s answer this question in two ways.  First, we will look at the clinical definition.  Then, I will describe what a panic attack feels like.

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th Edition (DSM-IV), when 4 or more of the following symptoms develop abruptly, reach a peak within 10 minutes and create intense fear or discomfort, you are experiencing an ‘official’ panic attack.

  1. palpitations, pounding heart, or accelerated heart rate
  2. sweating
  3. trembling or shaking
  4. sensations of shortness of breath or smothering
  5. feeling of choking
  6. chest pain or discomfort
  7. nausea or abdominal distress
  8. feeling dizzy, unsteady, lightheaded, or faint
  9. derealization (feelings of unreality) or depersonalization being detached from oneself)
  10. fear of losing control or going crazy
  11. fear of dying
  12. paresthesias (numbing or tingling sensations)
  13. chills or hot flushes

The list above doesn’t begin to capture what panic attacks actually feel like.  Self help for panic attacks by faith means cultivating the discernment to recognize exactly how the symptoms of anxiety feel.  Why?  Because how you understand your sensations of anxiety will largely determine how you pray and how you approach taming panic attacks.  Here is more of an insider’s look at explaining a panic attack:

What is a Panic Attacks? What Does Feel Like in Your Body?

Excessive sweating from hot or cold flashes can leave you drenched for no apparent reason. You might feel a
trembling deep inside or you may be unable to control the outward shaking of your body. Numbness or a burning sensation is common and your hands and feet might tingle with pins and needles.  Self help for panic attacks begins with inviting God into your anxiety and into the tunnel of your fear.  It means noticing specific feelings and sensations in your body.  Self help for panic attacks also means adopting, by faith, an attitude of serenity and acceptance.

What? Are you kidding?  An attitude of acceptance?!  What about spiritual warfare?

Trying to do combat against panic attacks is little bit like jumping up and down on a dirt pile in order to get the dust to settle.  Some storms  in life are calmed by calm words rather than fierce challenge.  The book of Proverbs says, “a soft answer turns away wrath (anger).”  It’s sometime true that a soft words also turn away panic.  Here is an example of such words in a famous prayer:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

But we are getting ahead of ourselves.  Let’s look for a moment at what a panic attack feels like in various parts of the body.

Your Heart Feels Like its Turning into a Jackhammer

One of the scariest symptoms is chest pain, tightness and pressure. Your heart may beat very hard or fast and feel like it could jump out of your chest. Or you may experience palpitations, where it skips a beat or two and feels like it’s flopping around.

Your Breathing Becomes Shallow and Labored

What You Feel in Your Lungs:  You’re very conscious of each breath you take and although your rate of breathing increases, it also becomes more shallow. Catching your breath is difficult and the sensation of feeling smothered or
suffocating is common.

The Thoughts in Your Head Feel Out of Control

What it Feels Like inside Your Head:  It’s difficult to concentrate and your thoughts are running at a hundred miles an hour. Disoriented and confused, it feels like you’re living in a time warp where the world around you isn’t real (derealization). You may feel cut off from your surroundings as if you’re underwater and everything is out of reach (depersonalization). Thoughts of having a heart attack, losing your mind, dying, and becoming trapped are all very common fears for anyone having a panic attack.  Hyperventilation (over-breathing) results in dizziness and lightheadedness. Your vision may blur or you might have ringing in your ears. You could feel unsteady as if things are
whirling around or as though your head is swimming and this adds to the fear that you might faint or pass out.

You Feel Like You Are Choking or Being Smothered

What it Feels Like in Your Throat:  Muscles in your throat contract which leads to a feeling of being choked or strangled. Your mouth is dry and it may feel as if there’s a lump stuck in the back of your throat that stops your
ability to swallow.

What it Feels Like in Your Gut

Butterflies or tightness as if you’ve been punched is common in the abdominal area, along with feeling bloated
or nauseous. Painful diarrhea and a lack of appetite may leave a tinny or metallic taste in your mouth.

Now keep in mind that most people do not experience all 13 symptoms at once.  A panic attack is made up of any combination of at least 4 of the 13 possible ingredients.  But if you have the facts about all 13 symptoms you can begin to change the way you pray.  If you understand what is happening to you, then you can reassure yourself that you really will not die from any of the panic attack symptoms. Factual knowledge of the physical symptoms of anxiety attacks is often the first step in accepting a panic attack like a wave that is rolling over you, but which will not kill you.  I have found that such turbulent serenity is one of the keys to the door of relief.

A Tip for Praying When an Anxiety Attack is Upon You

The desperation of a panic attack can make even the hardiest of believer cry out to God.  However, it’s really not the best way to pray.  It’s much better to steady yourself by talking to God in a matter-of-fact way as if you are observing the symptoms with him.  “God, thank you that this panic attack is not going to kill me.  Stay with me while this wave rolls over me…”  The point here is that you need to pray in such a way as to calm yourself–even just a little bit.  Praying with desperation can often end up being a religious way to throw the gasoline on the very fire (panic) that needs to be quenched.  Self help for panic attacks…by faith…means accepting the panic, welcoming it, letting it be.  It sounds strange, but somehow accepting it really helps to deflate fear and allows the panic to wither away.

During a panic attack it’s better to simply say to yourself, “A panic attack is a miserable, confusing experience, but it won’t kill me.  I trust that God will help me figure out what is going on when it is over.”  This is what I mean by self help for panic attacks, by faith.  It is God’s help coming in and through the self.  At least in the case of self help for panic attacks faith involves just walking steadily and serenely through the dark tunnel of anxiety instead of frantically trying to climb the walls.

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Help Your Husband Understand Panic With These 3 Steps

Lack of participation in family outings, too anxious or too exhausted for intimacy, feeling out of sync with the rest of your family, and isolation from family friends are just a few of the ways that frequent panic attacks impact a husband and wife as well as their children.  If you are a married woman who suffers from panic attacks you know how difficult it can be to navigate the marital issues resulting from frequent panic attacks.  If you’ve gotten as far as seeing your need for self help for panic attacks, then the next challenge is to get ready to actually begin.

Bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ…

– The Apostle Paul

Getting ready to launch your program of self help for panic attacks includes bringing your family members on board.  In particular, it’s good to have your husband’s support.  But before he can offer support he may need to understand more of what it’s like.  Here are three simple steps to begin doing just that:

1.  Listen Carefully to the Bad News

Christian marriage involves speaking the truth in love.  It means speaking honestly to each other.   But the flip side of speaking is listening even if it not pleasant to hear.  The first step is gear up to listen to some bad news from your husband:  ask about the impact of your panic attacks on him and on the family as a whole.  The most important thing here is listen without making it about you.  This is difficult because it may feel overcome by sadness and regret while he is talking.  Make sure you keep you focus on how this effecting him and not how sorry you are, how ashamed you are, or how much more suffering you have with your panic attacks.  It’s not a competition.  Furthermore, if you really listen to him you may find that it strengthens your resolve to start your program of self help for panic attacks.

2.  Put Yourself in His Place for a Moment

Second, empathize with him.  Try to put yourself in his place.  Here he is, married to a woman that seems to have a chronic condition that makes his life more difficult.  Just as you never know when panic will strike, so also he never knows when it will strike.  He never knows when he will suddenly have to do something that you both assumed that you would be able to do (picking up the kids from soccer practice, making dinner, etc.).  If you can find it in your heart to have two seconds of eye contact where you tell him you sincerely wish you could block the effects on him, then you have done this step.  If you have a family, then both your panic episodes and your efforts at self help for panic attacks have huge implications for the people you love most.

3.  Learn About Fearful Times in His Life Without Comparing

Third, ask about a few of the most frightening experiences of his life.  Make sure you ask clarification questions to bring out the details of his story.  Try to dig deep inside your heart to find some compassion for him in the experience or incidents he describes.  IMPORTANT:  Do not refer to your own experience of panic and don’t mention your program of self help for panic attacks during this conversation–that must be in a separate conversation and on a different day.  It’s also good to think about what he said for a day or two and send an email (or write a note) telling him you have been thinking about your conversations with him and the fear that he must have experienced earlier in his life.

Getting ready to start a program of self help for panic attacks goes more smoothly if you have the right kind of support.  You don’t need your husband to be telling you what to do.  You don’t need him to participate every step.  But you do need his spoken and unspoken encouragement to keep going.  Most importantly, you need him to understand that this is a major challenge for you.  If you do these three steps you may be glad you did when you embark on a journey of self help for panic attacks.

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